Things I Actually Like, 3-1
It's a birthday weekend around these parts!
I'm going to be completely occupied the next few days visiting with a certain darling baby niece of mine, who is turning ONE tomorrow. Can you believe it? One! Think about the last year of your life and everything you've learned. That's as long as her whole life. And she's learned so much! This is us in December and now it is March and both of us have longer bangs.
I'm excited to practice steps with her, giggle, read books, and have her push me away when I'm sticking my camera in her face because she is her own person. And don't worry, I'll tell her about Feminsims Fest this week, everything I learned from you, and I will tell her how much God loves her, exactly the way she is.
It will be good to celebrate all of the curious, funny, brilliant, loving little human she is. Also, cute. She's super cute. I like to think that she takes after me.
Are you ready for some favorite things of mine? All the links this week are words, but I'll get back to my favorite nail polishes next week. Because it's good to paint your nails while you're talking about Feminism and Theology and That Sort Of Thing.
My first thing I like is a post from my friend Alise Wright, who is speaking with me at this conference in April. And by that I mean I'll be following her around, hoping she'll high five me. Alise wrote this a few weeks ago, but I can't stop thinking about it. And when things stick in my brain like this, I know they're important.
Don't Upset Jesus
"It doesn’t sound great to say, “Please don’t pick on my friend,” or “Please don’t question my belief system.” So instead we make it about Jesus or the Church. Instead of “Don’t upset my friend,” it becomes “Don’t upset Jesus!”
But seriously, can we stop? Not the discussion of ideas. But the discussions about those discussions."
All of the other Things I Like from this week are posts from Feminisms Fest (#femfest). A few of my friends (who are sort of like, big deals on The Internet) had the awesome idea to discuss Feminisms, all the different sorts of them, through individual stories.
Feminist is such a loaded word, especially in the context of Christian Culture, but these posts amazed me. There are more than 100 different perspectives on Feminism in this link up party, and all of them are insightful. I hope you'll explore some of these stories.
Why Does Feminism Matter by Shaney Irene
"Some may ask why I need to embrace feminism, why I can’t just pursue justice and equality because I’m a Christian, why I would want to associate with a movement that has many problems, among them overlooking the unique experience of women of color and championing total access to abortion.
And I acknowledge that feminism is not perfect, but the good of feminism far outweighs the bad. Because the truth is that feminism is having conversations that the church is not."
Feminism & Me, Whether I Knew It or Not by Antonia Terrazas
"There’s a lot of my spiritual past I still have to sort through, even as it relates to women in the Church. It’s not all so tidy, but it does mean that when I approached the rail for the first time to receive the Eucharist, it was the most unconsciously natural thing for there to be a woman with the Body and Blood in her hands, just as a woman held the Body and Blood two thousand years ago."
When It Is Matters Because of Two Gardens by Preston Yancey
"I think of that Man and that woman, Brother and sister to us all, and the abundance that was empty tomb, with limbs that were told to bring forth and they brought, feeding a people forevermore, after this other garden. In that place where there was only one No! and on it hinged the promise of us, and upon it was our reweaving, our doing, and with it a cosmos blossomed into itself. What were groans became songs and the wait became reception, fulfillment.
She preached the redemption first."
When I Cannot Cook but I am Still a Person by Emily Joy Allison
"I remember sitting across the dinner table from a male friend talking about gender roles and how I believed that submission ought to be a mutual thing, and I remember him raising his eyebrows and saying, "Wow, nobody's ever gonna want to date you if that's what you believe." I remember another friend telling me, joking-but-serious, that I was in his "danger zone." I remember the looks I got for something as simple as wearing red lipstick. (I just really like red lipstick, ok?!) And most of all, I remember two years of trying to make it work with Mr. Darcy that ended with him telling me that I just wasn't pretty enough, and if I were prettier he would be more motivated to stay with me, but he needed to marry somebody extra pretty so that later on he wouldn't cheat on his wife.
I don't care how good your theology is in theory—if this is what it's yielding in practice, something is desperately wrong."
The Rehumanization of a Soldier by Luke Harms
"Once you recognize the simple fact that women are people too, the idea starts to spread, and you start seeing humanity everywhere. You start to see it in people of color, in Muslims and Jews and Buddhists and Sikhs and Hindus and atheists, in Democrats and Republicans, in Europeans and Africans and Arabs, in capitalists and communists, in the able-bodied and the disabled, the rich and the poor. Once you set aside the damaging assumption that someone, somewhere is somehow less human than you, it's exceedingly difficult to speak of the world around you in any language besides that of justice."
Mainstream Feminists Need Religious Feminists by Danielle Vermeer
"Feminists of faith are subversively changing the system from within. They are intrapreneurs, subtly changing the norms and beliefs and language of their religious communities. They are bravely stepping out and speaking up about feminism, even if they use other terms so as to avoid confusion at first."
I Don't Want to be Fixed by Esther Emery
"This, I think, is why feminism matters: because if it were me, (and it kind of is), I would say: don’t fix me, I don’t want to be fixed. I would say: don’t fix my pain, fix your own participation in injustice. Don’t silence me, add your own voice somewhere else. Don’t change me, change the system of oppression. Don’t protect me from this broken life, just live into the kingdom next to me."
Oh, and I can't resist this amazing video of Nicki Minaj talking about why we need feminism. Basically. So girls and boys: boss up, don't drink the pickle juice, and next time, let it be of quality. (Swears are bleeped out, but it may be a little much for your Grandma.)
Happy weekend, and Happy Birthday Georgia Lynn!