Things I Actually Like, 1-17
School started again for me last night, which means I'm back in the season of saying no to a lot of things I'd like to do/watch/play so I can study. It's really a case of having too much goodness in my life, so I'm grateful. But I hate missing out on things, so I'm trying to slow down my world to mark them.
I think I've gotten the school + career + life balance down a little bit better, and I've got a bunch of things I'm anxious to write about (like some more thoughts about dating, modesty, and sexuality that you'll hopefully be into!) so I'll try to be around this space a bit more than last semester.
While you're waiting for more juicy gossip, here are some things I've liked lately!
The new Beyonce Album & Videos
This album hardly needs an introduction, but I have to say that it's one of the most powerful albums I've ever heard. Usually I like a pop song or two, but this album reads like a story. It's bold, vulnerable, steady, questioning, hopeful, and smart.
Buy it, listen to it, dissect it, enjoy it, play with it, dance your butt off, discuss it, and watch all of the videos. I was the girl watching all the Cast/Director commentaries for Lord of the Rings ten years ago, so of course I'm watching all the behind the scenes extras for this album. They say a lot about feminism, artistry, self-knowledge, and love.
“I should have you ordain me.” She was flip, light, laughing. It was a joke, right? Women can’t be ordained.
“I would ordain you.”
“Absolutely. I see it in you.” He wasn’t joking. The others chimed in affirmation.
She was still laughing, but now it was to hide how big this moment was for her. “Okay.”
The Faith & Culture Writers Conference, March 7-8, 2014!
Don't let the pink color fool you, this weird little vegetable is a great exfoliator for all genders of faces! I forgot about mine for a while and recently found it dried up like a little rock when I was cleaning out my make up bin. But a little soak in water was all it needed to plump back up. Somehow, it feels moisturizing and exfoliating on my skin and now I use it every day! It's awesome for cold winter skin.
Telling the truth about healing is healing: Five False Things About Healing, by Kathy Escobar
"we have been infused with a false idea that if we just “believed enough, prayed enough, immersed ourselves in God’s truth enough, humbled ourselves enough, did x-y-z enough” that we’d be instantly transformed.
i don’t think many churches realize the amount of ongoing damage these messages about healing cause for people. they leave a lot of us with a “there must be something wrong with me because i am still struggling.” it’s still wild for me, how strong that pull is even after all these years of a radically different experience."
An important, practical read: Five Tips for Loving People through the Loss of a Marriage by Natalie Trust
"I can’t remember one single time that I wanted advice from anyone during the first several months after my marriage was over. I wanted to verbally process my feelings with people, but I didn’t want their opinions about what I should do, say, etc.
You’ll show yourself to be a safe person as you listen more than you speak, and validate more than give counsel."
My mom's gluten free chocolate chip cookies
No photos, because unfortunately, they're all in my tummy. But my mom making gluten free cookies just because I'd be stopping by the house? That's pretty much the most likeable thing ever.
A brave one: The Inoffensive Black Girl by Kristi Scott
"Not always, but often, I notice the skin colors fade on my drive home from work. I see the black and brown people crossing the street or waiting at the bus stop. They slowly fade into white women riding bikes in yoga pants and white men wearing New Balance running shoes.
I’m saying all this because I’m looking at the horizon of a breakthrough. I see a lot of chains in the community I work in but I see shiny gold chains in the community I live and fellowship in. I see the pain in us all but I wonder when we’ll acknowledge it. I wonder when I’ll stop being inoffensive and start asking why I’m the only black girl in the room. I wonder if I can stop dismissing the fact that I’m a part of the status quo no matter how big my hair gets."
An important read for MLK Jr Day and in general: Living a Color-Conscious Life by Austin Channing Brown
"On the surface, colorblindness may seem like the right action to take. It reflects a commitment to seeing other people strictly as individuals. Yet, in practice, being colorblind has not propelled us forward into recognizing and attacking racial injustice as King instructs. Rather, it has insulated us from having to acknowledge that racial disparities exist. By choosing to focus exclusively on the individual, we ignore the disparities still faced by communities of color."
And of course, a photo with my very favorite person, my tiny niece Georgia:
What were some of your favorite things this week? Or in like, the last 6 months because that was the last time I did one of these posts!